Family, Old Friends, New Friends…All Good.

I know it has been awhile since I have posted.  It has been a very active Summer.  Camping, biking, and hiking in preparation to take friends up the South Sister in October for their first time.  All Good!  I am motivated to post now because of a great weekend and a fantastic past several weeks.

First to my brother Shawn, who is creating a new life for himself as a new dad, and embarking on a new career path all the while enjoying his life with a wondrous sense of newness.

Second to my 16 year old niece Lea, a beautiful, Intelligent, loving person, who has finished high school before her junior year!  (Is she really related to me?)  She just spent a week with me and it was a blast having her here.  We shopped, hiked cross country in the Cascades and she got to learn how to use a compass, but her favorite part was me telling her about and buying her first set of billy bob teeth.  (See the photo, this proves she is related to me!)

This weekend my friend Farrokh, of 26 years came to visit with his beautiful girlfriend Angela.  The bonds between true friends is difficult to describe without feeling very emotional for me.  I am blessed to have the friends I have in my life and am not embarrassed to tell them so.  My friend Lori joined us (a new friend of 10 years)  for dinner of grilled wild salmon, grilled asparagus, and a nice mushroom risotto by Chef Farrokh.  It was nice to cook together again after all these years.  It was a thrill for me to connect Lori with a friend from my previous life as a young man.

Meanwhile my best friend and wife Ingrid, missed the weekend since she had the opportunity to attend her Aunt and Uncles 60th wedding anniversary.  These are the last remaining relatives to her Dad’s family.  Thanks to Teri, Ingrid’s sister, they and brother Butch showed up unannounced as a surprise.  People were blown away!  They met cousins and others they may never have met otherwise, traveled to her birthplace for the first time since she was born, and truly reconnected to her roots.

Meanwhile my very artistic mother has just gotten some great news!  More on this in a later post.

Life is what we make of it.  Family, friends, community, business, food, wine, nature, love and joy in all that you do…All Good.  What you focus on expands.  What are you focused on?

Physical, Hard Work…All Good

My best friend Mark and his girlfriend Gina asked me to help him cut down a tree. I needed my back brakes done. Perfect! While I was falling the tree he would do my brakes. We set a time and day and off we went. It was a 35ft tree with 4 different trees growing out of one. Big job. There was danger of hitting other trees and a home. Scary job. My grandson went along to help and thankfully Gina’s family came out to assist! I am happy to say all went well. No one got hurt, I still have excellent chainsaw skills, and we cut everything into firewood. Good hard physical labor makes you feel alive. Having grown up working that way makes you appreciate it more as you grow older. Today my body is feeling it! Muscles, kept dormant for a while are hurting. It feels good. In the end a rotting tree was removed, my brakes were done (both safety issues), people came together for a common goal, and we used our bodies and minds to solve problems, work together and feel alive. All Good…

Loving what you do…All Good

Do you really love what you do?  Is it even possible to love everything you do?  I believe it is.  I love all that I do!  If you can get to the point where you promise yourself that you will love what you are doing in the moment and can sustain that kind of thinking and awareness for three weeks it will begin a new habit which in turn leads to a better way of being.

You may backslide from time to time, but you will notice your complaining will look and feel unnatural.  You will  notice that you like to love what you do.  The beauty of this philosophy is it applies to everything you do, not just what you do for work.  You have the option of choice, one of the greatest gifts we have as a species.  Use it and start right now loving what you do, no matter how trivial the task, which will lead to an overall better way of being.

Volunteering…All Good

What do you do for others in your community? Just about all of us do things for others because we enjoy being of service. There are those companies who are in the news giving millions of dollars, and many more man hours every year. Business is a perfect example of how synergy that is created benefits a common cause for the community. Every business I have owned has promoted giving back. It is my duty as a responsible business owner. Not because I have more to give, but because it is socially responsible.  You need not give to keep up with others who give, it is not a competition.  Those who give the most will tell you the point is to just give, no matter what amount of time or money.  Imagine if everyone could give an hour or two a week to a good cause. The impact would be immeasurable. It has been proven that the majority of those who have been touched by volunteerism from others are more likely to volunteer themselves after such an experience of Goodness! Kids, food banks, elderly, animals, adult education, homeless, and hundreds of others allow us to continue to give. Pick a subject that is near and dear to your Being, and take action so good can be shared by all!

Where you are right now…All Good

Talking with a friend over lunch and reminiscing about the “good old days” I found myself starting to think about what was not in my life anymore.  This is an easy trap to fall into!  I had to stop and think.  The days are all good and the now is most important since it determines the next now which in turn becomes a belief.  People, items, jobs, businesses, places, circumstances, pets, money, homes, lifestyles, etc. come and go constantly.  This is the very essence of how life works.  If it didn’t work that way we would not have had those people and things in our life in the first place!  So when we think about the things in our life it is best to focus on the good things that have come from changes that are occurring.  If you are happy where you are now, than your are guaranteed happiness in the next phase.  As Eckhart Tolle puts it, “The now is all there is.”  We have the ability to choose our now.  This is where your personal power lies.  This is where you decide what the next moment will bring.  I choose Happiness and Joy in this moment.  Now when I reminisce, I think about all the things that have changed, but I recognize that they no longer serve me.  Today I simply focus on everything in my life serves me well. 

Breathing…a-a-h-h good

We take breathing for granted.  We are not taught to think about it.  I have found that if I pay attention to it there is a calming effect that expands to my environment.

The average respiration rate for a person at rest is about 16 breaths per minute.
This means on average, we breathe about 960 breaths an hour,
23040 breaths a day,
840,9600 a year.
If a person lives to 80, then that means on average they will take 672,768,000 breaths in a lifetime!

Even now as you are reading this you are most likely more aware of your own breathing.  It is a rebirth of sorts every time you breathe in and breathe out.  It is nearly impossible to pay attention to your breath while thinking of something else.  This is why it is the focus for meditation.  It centers you and prepares you for the day.  While I am not the best meditator, it is amazing how many times throughout the day I will stop and breathe consciously.  The calm and relaxed feeling that accompanies this is amazing!  The reverse is also true in an emergency, or high stress situation our breathing gets short and we feel tension, worry and panic. 

One other thing, breathing is something every living being has in common.  Try focusing on your breathing for one hour, or one day and let me know your results.  I think you may be thrilled with what you discover.

 

My new format…

Well here we go!  Since I have launched my Sadler Business Coaching newsletter (sign up at  http://scottsadlercoach.com)  and it will focus on coaching and other business tips.  I decided to write my random thoughts on all the good that is as my topic for my blog.

Posts could be daily, weekly or monthly.  The idea is to write from “inspired action” as my coach Jennifer suggests we do with everything.  This is interactive, so if you would like to share your good things please do as often as you would like!  This is to serve as a place to be with the good even if you are in a negative situation now, you can come here to fill yourself on the good that is always present in out lives.

The Good: Today I get to go to work at the Small Business Development Center.  I am there only one day a week, but I am always excited to go.  The work is stimulating, the clients are great, and my co-workers and Director of the center are awesome.

Where is your good today?

Mentors, The Generational Impact

I had many mentors before I met Ron. They all had an influence on me in different ways. Most of it was as a kid, in sports, outdoors, in school, or as an aspiring young chef. When I went into business for myself I did not have any mentors. I just did what I thought I should do through trial and error. In fact many of us have similar stories. “I was not sure what to do and then all of a sudden I met _______ and with her advice everything changed!” Sound familiar?

I want to tell you about Ron LeBlanc my first real business mentor. I recently had lunch with him after not having seen him for years, yet his influence is experienced daily in my life by me, and through me toward others. It was early 1990 and I was trying to find a way to grow business in our janitorial company geared to the professional office market. I saw an article on Ron and his company talking about his move into a burned building near Bush Park and restoring it to its historical status. On a whim, I cut out the article and mailed it to him along with a business card and a cheesy letter about Clean Sweep, our company. I never gave it another thought until a week later I get the article mailed back to me with a handwritten note on the article that said “I appreciate clever marketing, call me for an appointment, and let’s talk.” Clever? Ok, I called and made an appointment. What has come from that is a relationship from which I learned how to be in business, deal with people, how to dress, where to market, how to network, community service, how to handle a business lunch, he introduced me to people, and on and on.

To this day I am not sure why Ron chose to stick with me. He was very busy, a family man, community leader, and avid traveler. He told me how someone had helped him, and it would be up to me to do the same for others and pass it along. At the time I did not know what I did not know. I did not give it any more thought to how that may work into my future. Watching Ron over the years gave me something to shoot for. I wanted to be well dressed like him, make people feel special the way he does, be fierce in defending my code of ethics and those of others, overcome adversity, and achieve set goals and adapt to change and I wanted to help others.

I am proud to say I am very much like him today. I am not him, but I am me with his influence. We should all be ourselves with others influence affecting us for the better, and we are always affecting others with our influence. It is important to remember this point. How you interact with your fellow humans is one of your legacies. These traits can get passed down from generation to generation. What do you want your legacy to be? Treat everyone with fairness and respect and your legacy will be positive and strong moving into generations beyond your years. You may never know the reach of your influence. Be kind to your co-workers, your family, the waiter, the gas station attendant and cashier. Sometimes the smallest overture can have the largest impact on some one’s life.

Recently, while driving home from mentoring a class of potential business owners, I got the following email from Ron who had just gotten word I started my Business Coaching practice. I had not seen him in three or four years.
“Hey Good Buddy,

Nineteen years ago, only two people in the world knew that you would make a great business coach. You and me. I saw your new member notice in the Chamber Business News. Get back to me and let’s get caught up. Lots of water under the bridge.”

Best,
Ron
This message took me back to being in my early twenties and feeling proud when he was proud. I am blessed to have Ron as a mentor in my life and I am grateful to be a part of his legacy. It is my hope to pass it along to many others.

Do you have a mentor or mentee story? I would like to hear about it and the impact it has had on your personal, and/or your professional life. Email me at scott@scottsadlercoach.com or share it here as part of the conversation.
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