Family, Old Friends, New Friends…All Good.

I know it has been awhile since I have posted.  It has been a very active Summer.  Camping, biking, and hiking in preparation to take friends up the South Sister in October for their first time.  All Good!  I am motivated to post now because of a great weekend and a fantastic past several weeks.

First to my brother Shawn, who is creating a new life for himself as a new dad, and embarking on a new career path all the while enjoying his life with a wondrous sense of newness.

Second to my 16 year old niece Lea, a beautiful, Intelligent, loving person, who has finished high school before her junior year!  (Is she really related to me?)  She just spent a week with me and it was a blast having her here.  We shopped, hiked cross country in the Cascades and she got to learn how to use a compass, but her favorite part was me telling her about and buying her first set of billy bob teeth.  (See the photo, this proves she is related to me!)

This weekend my friend Farrokh, of 26 years came to visit with his beautiful girlfriend Angela.  The bonds between true friends is difficult to describe without feeling very emotional for me.  I am blessed to have the friends I have in my life and am not embarrassed to tell them so.  My friend Lori joined us (a new friend of 10 years)  for dinner of grilled wild salmon, grilled asparagus, and a nice mushroom risotto by Chef Farrokh.  It was nice to cook together again after all these years.  It was a thrill for me to connect Lori with a friend from my previous life as a young man.

Meanwhile my best friend and wife Ingrid, missed the weekend since she had the opportunity to attend her Aunt and Uncles 60th wedding anniversary.  These are the last remaining relatives to her Dad’s family.  Thanks to Teri, Ingrid’s sister, they and brother Butch showed up unannounced as a surprise.  People were blown away!  They met cousins and others they may never have met otherwise, traveled to her birthplace for the first time since she was born, and truly reconnected to her roots.

Meanwhile my very artistic mother has just gotten some great news!  More on this in a later post.

Life is what we make of it.  Family, friends, community, business, food, wine, nature, love and joy in all that you do…All Good.  What you focus on expands.  What are you focused on?

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Pushing your Boundaries…All Good

Recently I had the good fortune to spend a GREAT weekend in Central Oregon with friends. All of us, including my brother, needed a break from our routines. We ate, played golf, ate some more had wine and laughed continuously. All good, right? Well there was more going on this weekend. One of our friends, had never ran for exercise, or hiked over mountain (fear of heights). On the approach hike she also saw, and photographed a rattle snake. She is deathly afraid of snakes. In one weekend with the encouragement and support of her friends she faced and did all of these things! It was very special for me as she confronted her fear holding my hand all the way down the mountain.

This should remind us all to move toward our fears, no matter what it is. You will be a better person with more confidence when you do. My friend can attest to this as we celebrated her day with a Monkey Face Porter at the pub at the bottom of the mountain. All Good…

Physical, Hard Work…All Good

My best friend Mark and his girlfriend Gina asked me to help him cut down a tree. I needed my back brakes done. Perfect! While I was falling the tree he would do my brakes. We set a time and day and off we went. It was a 35ft tree with 4 different trees growing out of one. Big job. There was danger of hitting other trees and a home. Scary job. My grandson went along to help and thankfully Gina’s family came out to assist! I am happy to say all went well. No one got hurt, I still have excellent chainsaw skills, and we cut everything into firewood. Good hard physical labor makes you feel alive. Having grown up working that way makes you appreciate it more as you grow older. Today my body is feeling it! Muscles, kept dormant for a while are hurting. It feels good. In the end a rotting tree was removed, my brakes were done (both safety issues), people came together for a common goal, and we used our bodies and minds to solve problems, work together and feel alive. All Good…

Loving what you do…All Good

Do you really love what you do?  Is it even possible to love everything you do?  I believe it is.  I love all that I do!  If you can get to the point where you promise yourself that you will love what you are doing in the moment and can sustain that kind of thinking and awareness for three weeks it will begin a new habit which in turn leads to a better way of being.

You may backslide from time to time, but you will notice your complaining will look and feel unnatural.  You will  notice that you like to love what you do.  The beauty of this philosophy is it applies to everything you do, not just what you do for work.  You have the option of choice, one of the greatest gifts we have as a species.  Use it and start right now loving what you do, no matter how trivial the task, which will lead to an overall better way of being.

Volunteering…All Good

What do you do for others in your community? Just about all of us do things for others because we enjoy being of service. There are those companies who are in the news giving millions of dollars, and many more man hours every year. Business is a perfect example of how synergy that is created benefits a common cause for the community. Every business I have owned has promoted giving back. It is my duty as a responsible business owner. Not because I have more to give, but because it is socially responsible.  You need not give to keep up with others who give, it is not a competition.  Those who give the most will tell you the point is to just give, no matter what amount of time or money.  Imagine if everyone could give an hour or two a week to a good cause. The impact would be immeasurable. It has been proven that the majority of those who have been touched by volunteerism from others are more likely to volunteer themselves after such an experience of Goodness! Kids, food banks, elderly, animals, adult education, homeless, and hundreds of others allow us to continue to give. Pick a subject that is near and dear to your Being, and take action so good can be shared by all!

My new format…

Well here we go!  Since I have launched my Sadler Business Coaching newsletter (sign up at  http://scottsadlercoach.com)  and it will focus on coaching and other business tips.  I decided to write my random thoughts on all the good that is as my topic for my blog.

Posts could be daily, weekly or monthly.  The idea is to write from “inspired action” as my coach Jennifer suggests we do with everything.  This is interactive, so if you would like to share your good things please do as often as you would like!  This is to serve as a place to be with the good even if you are in a negative situation now, you can come here to fill yourself on the good that is always present in out lives.

The Good: Today I get to go to work at the Small Business Development Center.  I am there only one day a week, but I am always excited to go.  The work is stimulating, the clients are great, and my co-workers and Director of the center are awesome.

Where is your good today?

Failure is an Option

Let’s be real. Failure is always haunting us, circling overhead like a buzzard waiting for the prey to stumble. I have, like all of you, had my share of failures. Check these out, relationship, education, family, previous marriage, business, financial, hobby, and career and more I probably am not thinking of.

Where would you be without failure? Still in the womb! Friends, we need to fail from time to time to be able to expand our lives. If we did not fall when we learned to walk, how could we ever learn to run? Failure likes to pretend it is out of our control and there is nothing we can do about it. These are the times we must look to what our own accountability in the situation is or was. For me I can go through the list above and accept my part in the events and the lesson in all of my failures. It is the only way to truly move on from it and experience the success in waiting. Success cannot live simultaneously with failure. In order for us to get back on track and start creating success again we must nullify failures (fear) effects. I have listed six steps below to guide you through the process. It takes some work and time in most cases to work through some failure, so be prepared but keep moving to your next success.

1. Accept the situation is real, do not ignore it.
2. Accept your percentage of responsibility for the failure. This must happen to truly move on.
3. Show gratitude for the good in your life. There is always good in your life.
4. Believe deeply that this too, shall pass. Use it as an affirmation several times a day if needed.
5. Action cures fear, create a plan. Get advice, be open to suggestion, tackle issues, keep moving.
6. Plan for your next success, what good will come from this failure, what were the lessons I learned for my future? There is good and bad in failure. Give the power to the good!
What would have happened if Benjamin Franklin, Thomas Edison, Bill Gates, Michael Dell, Dave Ramsey and millions of others would have given up after failing? They were only unique because they followed the steps, or something similar to the ones above. You can start training yourself now by practicing these on small failures that happen organically everyday in your life. Car won’t start, meeting starts late, deals do not get closed, etc. How do you react to these things? However you react is an indicator on how you will deal with a major failure in your life. Apply the six principles above and feel the difference when you do not give failure power. As leaders it is critical to set the tone when failures occur. How will people react to your reaction? It always comes down to you. At the end of the day it is our action or inaction that defines who we are.
I know my failures intimately. I can recite each one to you if you ask me to and there are people in my life who can tell you about them too. But I would also tell you about how I overcame them, and succeeded. It all starts with the principles listed above. Life is about happiness, and there is no room in happiness for failure to exist as a lifestyle.

For more information visit my resource page http://www.scottsadlercoach.com/resources.html for reading material on this topic. Every one of the books here addresses overcoming failure. You can also contact me direct with any questions by phone or email. 503-364-2575 or scott@scottsadlercoach.com

Published in: on May 9, 2009 at 2:07 pm  Comments (2)