Family, Old Friends, New Friends…All Good.

I know it has been awhile since I have posted.  It has been a very active Summer.  Camping, biking, and hiking in preparation to take friends up the South Sister in October for their first time.  All Good!  I am motivated to post now because of a great weekend and a fantastic past several weeks.

First to my brother Shawn, who is creating a new life for himself as a new dad, and embarking on a new career path all the while enjoying his life with a wondrous sense of newness.

Second to my 16 year old niece Lea, a beautiful, Intelligent, loving person, who has finished high school before her junior year!  (Is she really related to me?)  She just spent a week with me and it was a blast having her here.  We shopped, hiked cross country in the Cascades and she got to learn how to use a compass, but her favorite part was me telling her about and buying her first set of billy bob teeth.  (See the photo, this proves she is related to me!)

This weekend my friend Farrokh, of 26 years came to visit with his beautiful girlfriend Angela.  The bonds between true friends is difficult to describe without feeling very emotional for me.  I am blessed to have the friends I have in my life and am not embarrassed to tell them so.  My friend Lori joined us (a new friend of 10 years)  for dinner of grilled wild salmon, grilled asparagus, and a nice mushroom risotto by Chef Farrokh.  It was nice to cook together again after all these years.  It was a thrill for me to connect Lori with a friend from my previous life as a young man.

Meanwhile my best friend and wife Ingrid, missed the weekend since she had the opportunity to attend her Aunt and Uncles 60th wedding anniversary.  These are the last remaining relatives to her Dad’s family.  Thanks to Teri, Ingrid’s sister, they and brother Butch showed up unannounced as a surprise.  People were blown away!  They met cousins and others they may never have met otherwise, traveled to her birthplace for the first time since she was born, and truly reconnected to her roots.

Meanwhile my very artistic mother has just gotten some great news!  More on this in a later post.

Life is what we make of it.  Family, friends, community, business, food, wine, nature, love and joy in all that you do…All Good.  What you focus on expands.  What are you focused on?

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Loving what you do…All Good

Do you really love what you do?  Is it even possible to love everything you do?  I believe it is.  I love all that I do!  If you can get to the point where you promise yourself that you will love what you are doing in the moment and can sustain that kind of thinking and awareness for three weeks it will begin a new habit which in turn leads to a better way of being.

You may backslide from time to time, but you will notice your complaining will look and feel unnatural.  You will  notice that you like to love what you do.  The beauty of this philosophy is it applies to everything you do, not just what you do for work.  You have the option of choice, one of the greatest gifts we have as a species.  Use it and start right now loving what you do, no matter how trivial the task, which will lead to an overall better way of being.

Volunteering…All Good

What do you do for others in your community? Just about all of us do things for others because we enjoy being of service. There are those companies who are in the news giving millions of dollars, and many more man hours every year. Business is a perfect example of how synergy that is created benefits a common cause for the community. Every business I have owned has promoted giving back. It is my duty as a responsible business owner. Not because I have more to give, but because it is socially responsible.  You need not give to keep up with others who give, it is not a competition.  Those who give the most will tell you the point is to just give, no matter what amount of time or money.  Imagine if everyone could give an hour or two a week to a good cause. The impact would be immeasurable. It has been proven that the majority of those who have been touched by volunteerism from others are more likely to volunteer themselves after such an experience of Goodness! Kids, food banks, elderly, animals, adult education, homeless, and hundreds of others allow us to continue to give. Pick a subject that is near and dear to your Being, and take action so good can be shared by all!

Where you are right now…All Good

Talking with a friend over lunch and reminiscing about the “good old days” I found myself starting to think about what was not in my life anymore.  This is an easy trap to fall into!  I had to stop and think.  The days are all good and the now is most important since it determines the next now which in turn becomes a belief.  People, items, jobs, businesses, places, circumstances, pets, money, homes, lifestyles, etc. come and go constantly.  This is the very essence of how life works.  If it didn’t work that way we would not have had those people and things in our life in the first place!  So when we think about the things in our life it is best to focus on the good things that have come from changes that are occurring.  If you are happy where you are now, than your are guaranteed happiness in the next phase.  As Eckhart Tolle puts it, “The now is all there is.”  We have the ability to choose our now.  This is where your personal power lies.  This is where you decide what the next moment will bring.  I choose Happiness and Joy in this moment.  Now when I reminisce, I think about all the things that have changed, but I recognize that they no longer serve me.  Today I simply focus on everything in my life serves me well. 

Breathing…a-a-h-h good

We take breathing for granted.  We are not taught to think about it.  I have found that if I pay attention to it there is a calming effect that expands to my environment.

The average respiration rate for a person at rest is about 16 breaths per minute.
This means on average, we breathe about 960 breaths an hour,
23040 breaths a day,
840,9600 a year.
If a person lives to 80, then that means on average they will take 672,768,000 breaths in a lifetime!

Even now as you are reading this you are most likely more aware of your own breathing.  It is a rebirth of sorts every time you breathe in and breathe out.  It is nearly impossible to pay attention to your breath while thinking of something else.  This is why it is the focus for meditation.  It centers you and prepares you for the day.  While I am not the best meditator, it is amazing how many times throughout the day I will stop and breathe consciously.  The calm and relaxed feeling that accompanies this is amazing!  The reverse is also true in an emergency, or high stress situation our breathing gets short and we feel tension, worry and panic. 

One other thing, breathing is something every living being has in common.  Try focusing on your breathing for one hour, or one day and let me know your results.  I think you may be thrilled with what you discover.

 

My new format…

Well here we go!  Since I have launched my Sadler Business Coaching newsletter (sign up at  http://scottsadlercoach.com)  and it will focus on coaching and other business tips.  I decided to write my random thoughts on all the good that is as my topic for my blog.

Posts could be daily, weekly or monthly.  The idea is to write from “inspired action” as my coach Jennifer suggests we do with everything.  This is interactive, so if you would like to share your good things please do as often as you would like!  This is to serve as a place to be with the good even if you are in a negative situation now, you can come here to fill yourself on the good that is always present in out lives.

The Good: Today I get to go to work at the Small Business Development Center.  I am there only one day a week, but I am always excited to go.  The work is stimulating, the clients are great, and my co-workers and Director of the center are awesome.

Where is your good today?

Imagine your business serving you, instead of you serving your business!

You plan for your business concept, plan your cash flow needs, your marketing needs, your staffing needs, licensing, insurance, location, inventory, equipment, and a myriad of other logistics that may apply to your specific business or industry.


As Entrepreneurs this is not only our nature, but it is how we are taught. It cannot be understated how important it is to plan in a business for your future or there may be no future! There is one thing the majority of Entrepreneurs miss in the planning of a new business or improving an existing business, themselves. How do the dreams and goals of what the owner coincide with the goals of the business? Do they match? How will the business serve your personal goals, dreams and desires?
This is, in my humble opinion, the most overlooked aspect of planning for a business. This is akin to getting ready for a cross country road trip. You wash your car, change the oil, rotate your tires, pack your bags, plan your trip on a map, and then leaving with only a gallon of fuel in the car. You will make some progress, but without a Vision (fuel), your business may not be as appealing or fulfilling as you originally had hoped.
I have been an Entrepreneur since 1989. I have had huge successes and miserable failures. When I was successful the business served me and my personal life I desired. When I have failed my personal life was not being served by my business and so there was no sustainability for the life of the business. If you try to succeed without aligning your Vision with the business, then your personal life will have to adapt to the business. There is, in the beginning of any business, a certain amount of misalignment between the business direction and Vision. This should be temporary! There should be a point when the business comes into alignment with your overall Vision that provides what I call Holistic Happiness. This is the place where your business vision and your personal vision intersect. This is the place of joyous, calm, confidence that makes going into your business, not like working at all.
I discovered this for me quite by accident. I have been very systems oriented in my businesses over the years. People would ask me how I managed so many people so well, had such high customer retention, or was able to market and grow my business so quickly. I, believing there are really no secrets in running a business, would happily share what I was doing in my business thus helping others. Little did I realize at the time that the act of helping others as humans first and other roles second was my true calling.
A few businesses later, I wrote what I really wanted for my life. I spent as much time planning and thinking that through as I would a well thought out marketing plan or financial plan for my business that I would own a business that was on purpose. My concept would bring me and my customers’ fulfillment and value every day.

Coaching/Consulting was the obvious answer for me. I recognized my other businesses had been just a front for doing what I really was drawn to do, helping other business people. So I started working as an Adjunct Faculty member as a business advisor and instructor for the Small Business Development Center at the local community college, and a short time later started Sadler Business Coaching. There has not been one day I have not been excited to go to work at either place. I feel exhausted at the end of everyday but it is a really fulfilling kind of tired. My personal life is more fulfilling as well. I am able to do the things I want to do when I want to do them through working the systems I have implemented, but it all starts with the Vision.
There are four components to get you working on your own Holistic system for your life and business. Vision, Mission, Goals, and Time Management.
For the Vision, write down how your life would look if you had no concerns about relationships, time, or money. Just write, don’t over think! Than pare it down to a two or three sentence statement that reflects what you want from life. Will your business get your there? When? What will you have to do to make that happen in your business?
Next write your Mission for your business. The Mission is how your business serves your customers. What would you ideally like for your customers say about your product or service? This should support your Vision. Most of us get these backward and that leads to burnout and disillusion in your business. You cannot serve your customer and put your own needs second. It simply is not sustainable to do so.
Following this is a goal system that supports your Mission and Vision. These should be very specific, measurable, timely, and list who will be responsible. The key is if the goal does not serve your Vision and Mission it is not a worthy goal and should be replaced.
The foundation for all of this is time management. There are a many systems to choose from. Be sure to schedule days away from all business activities on a weekly basis to be at your best while in your business.
Your days should be structured in a way to ensure you are working on the important tasks that support your Mission and Vision. This may require delegating some things you had done in the past or restructuring your organization as a whole. Remember the old adage: It takes 21 days to become a habit. Changing daily task/time management habits will be important to propel you toward your ideal life.
If I can do this so can you. You can have it all! It requires asking what you really want out of life. Talk to somebody you trust and respect and ask their opinion. Don’t isolate yourself in this process. It is important to be supported. It can be sometimes lonely as and Entrepreneur, but it does not have to be that way. If you always work toward your ultimate Joy, everything else will fall into place. It comes down to focusing on, Personal Growth, Business Management, and Holistic Happiness. Just imagine, your business serving you, instead of you serving your business.
Contact me for more information about having me speak to your organization, or one on one coaching for your purpose, goals, and balance. http://www.scottsadlercoach.com/
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